Comments on: love is chemical dependence

By: mims

mims — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 15:36:49 +0000

while i have a lot of thoughts on this, jon, the most salient one is that our marriage really could have worked.

By: Lyle_S

Lyle_S — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 18:47:46 +0000

If your favorite breakfast is cereal I’d be all over that.

By: p

Mon, 26 Jan 2009 17:41:23 +0000

donny: you’ll probably get farther with “i’ll learn to make your favorite breakfast if you let me give that nice ass all the lovin’ it needs.” it’s more specific.

By: poopies

poopies — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 11:11:30 +0000

barty proposed?

By: jb

jb — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 05:30:44 +0000

I’d just like to say, in regards to p and figure 8′s comments, word.

You’ve come ’round to this subject from time to time, marriage and the fact that you aren’t keen on it. There is nothing wrong with not being married. You’re not suppose to be married, Mr. Rolston, you’re only suppose to live true to what and who you are. Any other way is never any good, my friend, not for you and not for her. Hence why nearly one in three marriages ends in d-i-v-o-r-c-e.

By: Lyle_S

Lyle_S — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 05:01:58 +0000

Jon, maybe you can find a way to bring these two sides together somehow and actually improve your relationship. If not, recognize the situation for what it is and, at the very least, don’t get yourself in too deep to where breaking it off becomes overly complicated.

Or just be the guy who cheats on his woman. It’s a popular category, if you can live with the guilt or rationalize it away.

By: peek a boo

peek a boo — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 02:29:14 +0000

oxy what?
would need to be a drug that strong to make a woman not be afraid to push something the size of a watermelon out of a gap not even the size of a bottle of nail polish.

By: figure 8

figure 8 — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 02:24:28 +0000

a man proposed to me on BART the other night. I had on jeans and high-heels and a warm coat. when he asked if i was married i said no. (he was trying to find out where my ass lived and such and i’ve found that if you talk to a man like you want him to fuck off because you really do then they tend to very loudly and verbally tell you to fuck-off whereas if you humor him a tad he’ll leave you the fuck alone.) He asked more questions like: are you engaged? why not? whose afraid? he told me he’s been there. he told me that i was marriage material, fresh-faced, wholesome and honest. he told me that any man who was with me and wouldn’t marry me was a fool and that i should let that man know that he was willing. the whole thing skated past creepy by a very narrow margin and almost slid into the persuasion that happens just before force. funny thing is, when i saw him i thought there is a man i shouldn’t turn my back to. now, if i hadn’t said the last part of that story, it reflects both of the things that Rolston is saying here. This was ‘shouting at me” because it’s in his nature(to demand attention like a baby) and i was starting to listen because his game was good (and because even women who don’t have kids usually will pay attention to them when they are in the room). now it was a 10 minute relationship ending with us both leaving the train. that brevity of all positive exchange was perfect. it was like a partners’ dance where the male leads and the woman follows. hhmmmm.

about your situation with your woman:if you are so much of a wolf, accept it. or accept that you want to be with her. be okay with the possibility of dying alone or pick someone you will eventually put in the grave. until those moments of mortality, read, learn, be kind, hit walls, bleed, scar, love and make love like it’s the only way that you know to say how much you love her and fuck like it’s a competition that you have to win. women like a quickie but we also want you to recognize that we are complex and we like to hear that you love our beauty. we are all animals and function by instinct and we are intelligent. those things by nature are contradictory . why not just pick a path and enjoy it without worry of what you don’t have. worst case scenario, buy that girl some wigs or date someone with multiple personalities.

By: donny laundry

donny laundry — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 00:52:39 +0000

p, would you accept, “I’d like to get intimate with that nice ass!!” ?

By: p

Sun, 25 Jan 2009 18:37:51 +0000

why do you treat lust and desire as two mutually exclusive concepts? doesn’t one beget the other? maybe lust is purely sexual while desire entails more. i know i fantasize about driving a man so crazy with lust that he has to have me right then, wherever we are, with the intention of pleasing me to drive me as crazy. ultimately, i need the heat, the bare flesh, the tugs, the moans, gasps, grunts, sighs, along with the idea that he’s also considering how i feel. so, as you can see, getting “nice ass” hollered at me is flattering but just doesn’t cut it. i want to know what he will do to get my ass, how he will do it, and what it will feel like.

and, by the way, the lifeless relationship you described that you have with your girlfriend will kill me and any other woman i know. we women are not as simple as you portrayed.